So first of all, let's take a look at some of the common drivers for resistance. And these are just some things that I've brainstormed that I think are reasons that resistance or that feeling of being held back or that feeling of kind of pushing up against something rises. 1. Procrastination
- Procrastination and resistance go hand in hand. When you're feeling like you're procrastinating - you're feeling resistance, you're feeling unable to move forward, unable to take action. You distract yourself with anything and everything, you do whatever you can to avoid actually taking action on that thing that you want to take action on. And this can also be better known as fear. So a lot of the time, procrastination and resistance come up due to our fears. And there are a number of different fears that can come up for us. And it's different for everybody and maybe it's one of these fears, or maybe it's a combination of these fears, but some really common fears are things like the fear of failure, the fear of making a mistake, the fear of judgment or criticism, the feel of the unknown, the fear of success sometimes as well, which is something people don't think about too much, but sometimes stepping into a new space of success can bring up all the feels. And then there are other types of fear that might be popping up for you depending on your particular situation that leads you to then procrastinate and have that sense of resistance. Because really this is just your mind and your body protecting you. They're trying to keep you safe. They're trying to protect you from the fears that are coming up, the unknown, the “what-ifs” and the uncertainty that can come with moving forward and they're just trying to keep you safe. And really that's all procrastination and resistance is, it's trying to hold you back to keep you safe and secure. But what we need to realize is that a lot of our fears are irrational. They're made up circumstances and situations in our mind that may not ever happen and most of the time never do happen. And that we need to actually learn to push ourselves through that fear and still take courageous action through procrastination, through resistance, and support ourselves to take that step forward. Because most of the time, everything that we're looking to achieve is on the other side of that procrastination. And we just need to take the steps and we need to take a courageous leap of faith and move forward anyway because caving safe and secure in your comfort zone is only going to get you so far.2. Control
- The next one that I think is really a driver for resistance is the need for control. And this kind of stems into a little bit of that comfort zone that I was just talking about where you want to stay in that comfort zone. You want to feel like you're in control, you know what to expect, you know what's coming, you know what it feels like. You know how you show up when you're in this comfort zone. Everything's predictable and safe. And when we start to move outside of that comfort zone, we feel that our control diminishes. We don't know what's coming. We don't know how to prepare for it. We don't know what to expect and we get really concerned about that. And change becomes this big scary thing that maybe we're not ready for yet. And maybe it's easier to just stay in our comfort zone and resist the change. But this is again, something that we need to move through. So if you're feeling like there's some big changes happening in your life, if you feel like there's change on the horizon for you or there's changes that you're really motivated to make and step into, but you're feeling a little bit of resistance coming up, it might be because it's tapping into that sense of losing control or fearing the unknown or not knowing what to expect on the horizon and is it all going to be worth it? Is everything you wanted to achieve actually going to happen or are you safer to just stay where you are and do nothing? Often most of the people that I speak to feel like it is going to be better for them to take action and step out of their comfort zone to know that they've tried and maybe not succeeded or maybe they do succeed, but if you stay in your comfort zone where it's safe and warm and cozy, you will never know. So we need to embrace change. We need to look at it as a positive, as a step forward, as an opportunity for growth and take the leap. 3. Overwhelm
- The next thing that I think drives resistance is overwhelm and this is probably something that I've been feeling. I think this is the space that I've been in over the last couple of weeks where I haven't really known where to focus my attention and my energy because I've had a lot of competing demands coming up. I've had a lot of things that I've needed to address in my business, in my life, in working with my clients in my Wealthy Wellpreneurs
group, in managing my free content in all of the things that can come up as a business owner. And I have really had to be intentional about where I give my attention, where I give my energy, how I plan out my schedule and my time so that I can make sure I'm still getting things done and not just going into a complete overwhelming meltdown. And that's really what overwhelm is. It's that feeling of I just don't know where to start. I don't know what to focus on. I don't know where I need to be or what I needed to be doing. And it's just too much. The input into my brain is just too much and this is where I was feeling like for me, I could get stuck in the resistance where there's just too much going on. It's too hard to think about. It's too much input into my brain so I'm just going to shut off. I'm going to resist it all and I'm going to avoid and that's definitely not a space that I want to be in. It's definitely not a space that you want to be in either. So you really need to be able to recognize that overwhelm when it's coming up to recognize that maybe there's a few too many things happening right now and to shift into a space where you can start to prioritize where you need to spend your attention and your energy be as that is what's going to help you to start weeding through all of the things on your to do list and to work out what's the most urgent and important tasks that you need to focus on for right now to get that done and then to be able to move onto the next without it feeling like there's this huge mountain of tasks and responsibilities getting thrown on top of you. 4. Burnout
- And then the final one that I think is a real driver for resistance as well is burnout. And this is kind of the step beyond overwhelmed where maybe you've let overwhelm impact you for a longer period of time than necessary. And you've really been doing all the things that all the hours wearing all the hats constantly go, go, go, do, do, do feeling very overwhelmed and stressed and anxious as a kind of normal feeling throughout your day and feeling like that's just the way life is. That's just the way it feels and it needs to be for me to get things done and your body has eventually kind of stepped into that phase of mental or physical burnout where you're beyond not knowing where to start and you're feeling more like, I'm not going to start. If there's one more thing that comes my way, I will explode. I will just lose the plot. It's like that straw that broke the camel's back. It's like it could be the smallest, most insignificant little thing like, “Hey, what's for dinner?”
And everything goes into a meltdown because it's just that one thing too many that's coming into your consciousness and your brain and you've just held on for so long. You've juggled all the balls in the air and spun all the plates in the air and it's time where everything just drops and the resistance is just all too much and it's basically that point that you get to where you just say, enough, I'm done. I'm out and none of us want to get to that point. But I think that if you are feeling a lot of resistance currently, if you're really struggling to move forward with things and it feels beyond overwhelm and it feels more like literally, if one more thing comes into my conscious awareness that I need to add to my to do list, I'm going to have a meltdown, then you're probably very close to burnout. So I would really encourage you to take notice of that if that is how you're feeling because it is not normal to feel that way as a business owner, as anyone really. And it can be really detrimental to your mental health and your physical health if you let yourself keep going down that track and letting the resistance build and build and build to the point potentially of no return and you might become ill, you might have physical exhaustion or some other kind of health concern and you're not going to be any good show your business at that point.