6. It's got nothing to do with you -
Making mistakes or making a fool of yourself or people judging you is not necessarily anything to do with you. It's something that you can't take personally because oftentimes if people are judging you, if you're getting trolled or people have judgments or criticism of you, a lot of the time it's more to do with them than it is to do with you. But if that criticism or feedback is helpful, if there's constructive elements to it, then you can certainly take that on board and improve. And again, that's really only going to increase your confidence over time because you know that you're making a more refined version of your product or your service that people actually are going to benefit from. I think that feedback can actually be really useful a lot of the time, even though it can also be scary to receive it.
Making mistakes and not getting the results that maybe you were expecting often comes down a lot more to what you've put in place in forms of your marketing messages, your graphics, how you've worded things, how your showing up in the algorithms even. It's all kind of forming this cohesive brand and visibility factor, that doesn't necessarily mean anything about you as a person. What you need to do and what you need to focus on if things aren't going to plan for you is to just keep trying - try and then try again because eventually you're going to refine it and refine it and refine it to the point that it hits the mark and you start seeing the results that you're after.It’s got nothing to do with you as a person. It doesn't mean that you are not cut out for this. It just means that maybe you don't have the right formula in terms of how to get yourself seen on the algorithms, how to get more reach and visibility of your message. Maybe you're just not quite using the right words in your captions or your messaging that really hits the mark with your ideal client. Or maybe you're just not clear enough in how you're explaining how people can work with you. There are so many different factors that can come into this, but the important message here is just to keep trying and keep refining and you will eventually get it. And again, when you have supports to help you with that, with coaches and mentors and things like that, it's also going to help you to fast track those results.
And then finally I just really want to speak to why not you? WHY NOT YOU?! When you are not stepping into your brilliance and sharing your gifts with the world, whether that is a product or service, you're actually robbing people of the opportunity to work with you to benefit from you and what you can offer and to actually have results and transformation in their own lives. So it's actually in a sense, selfish to not be taking action on your goals and your dreams because there are people out there waiting for you to come into their lives. And when you don't take action, obviously that transformation doesn't happen and people are robbed of the experience to have you as part of their life. Why Not Now?
I want to switch and look at why not now. And normally when this is coming up, when you're feeling like you can't take action, it is because of things like you don't have enough time, you don't have enough money, you don't have enough skills, you don't have enough support and all of those things, and let's be honest, these are all excuses.
I understand completely that people have very challenging responsibilities and schedules and lives and that there often isn't time to just add a new business idea or to make time for specific goals or dreams. But at the same time, I believe that there are ways around this that you can definitely make these things happen for you because I'm telling you now, there are people that have less money than you, less time than you, less skills than you and far less support and resources than you - who are chasing their dreams and making them a reality. You need to work out how you can move through some of those excuses, how to change up your schedule so that they're not a block to you being able to move forward. 1. Change Your Situation -
How can you change your current situation so that it's more supportive for you to take action in the direction that you want to go? Now, whether that's things like exercise, more healthy eating, starting a business, anything really that you're focusing on. How can you actually look at your schedule, look at your situation and make some changes so that it can all work together. Are there supports that you can look at maybe personal supports like help around the house or help with your children or whether there's professional supports like hiring a business coach like myself that focuses on helping you to scale your services online? Are there people that you can hire to help you out with certain tasks? Whether that's things around the home, again, like cleaning or whether its business related things or hiring a VA to do some of the admin tasks for you, hiring people to support you with graphics or website design. Any way that you can add more pockets of time into your schedule. Can you be doing something to work on your business while your baby is asleep? Can you be getting your parents to help watch the baby while you do some work on your business? Can you maybe allocate pockets of time in the evenings when your kids are asleep to work on your business?
Sometimes there does require some sacrifices and shifting. That's just the reality of starting a business and growing a business, but you can do it in a way that works in with your schedule and where you take small action steps just to get things rolling. You don't have to do the whole thing straight away and have everything up and running in a couple of months. You can take your time if your responsibilities and your lifestyle doesn't quite allow you to spend a significant amount of time on growing your business. Something that might help you as well with this is my free Productivity Plan, because I share seven different ways that you can actually overhaul your schedule and get super clear on how to be more productive with your time and I think that if you are someone that struggles with where to find time for things in your schedule, this is going to be perfect for you so you can grab it at wellbeingweekly.com.au/plan
, but this is a really great way to start looking at your schedule, noticing where you're spending time and how you can spend it more effectively. 2. Give yourself permission -
Do you need to give yourself permission? I know that as women it can be sometimes hard to spend time on yourself and to switch your focus to yourself, especially if you're a parent and where you might be shifting dynamics within your family or your relationship and shifting some of your attention back on yourself, and essentially do what it is that you want to do in the world. So ask yourself is there an element of permission that you need? And whether that's just giving yourself the permission, whether it's maybe journaling it out and really getting clear on how you can make this your time and whether you need permission, perhaps from other people around you, whether you're perhaps worried about stepping away from the same level of support that you've given others for so long and now you want to focus some of that back on yourself. Whatever it is that you think is holding you back. Is there an element of permission that needs to happen here so that you can get started and start taking action? Is there a conversation that you need to have with your partner? Is there a conversation that you need to have with your extended family to get more support? Is there a conversation that you just need to have with yourself?
I'll give you an example of this from my own life...When I was looking to start Wellbeing Weekly, I was already running my skin care brand full time. We didn't really have time for me to start another business, but my calling to do this was so strong that I knew if I didn't do this I would be probably somewhat miserable and feeling like I was really sacrificing a part of me that I really needed to share with the world. What that involved was a conversation with my partner around how I was going to be able to allocate time to this, how I was going to separate my responsibilities and make sure that it didn't pull me away from the focus on our current business, but that it was also enabling me to take small action steps as much as possible. That was all it took, really for me to be able to say, 'okay, this is something that is doable'. It's something that he's supportive of and is something that I'm obviously motivated and passionate about doing and giving a go. So that's how it started. It was at first element of feeling like it was possible and then it was about giving myself the permission to step into it and share my message, share my voice and give it a go, and that's when the podcast began. It was just starting to share my message with people and really seeing what happened organically. From there, I didn't really have specific expectations. I didn't really know how things would evolve, but I knew that I just needed to start and the rest would work itself out over time and as long as I was allocating a snippet of time every week to focusing on growing this business, then over time I knew it would start to steamroll and that might be something that you need to do as well.
Just consider what needs to happen to just break through that first point of resistance so that you can start to take action. You commit to it and go on top of that once you feel like you've got the level of commitment to actually get started, which is usually a stopping point for so many people. Many women in my community tell me they just don't even know where to start.3. Give yourself a timeframe -
Once you've actually pushed through that and giving yourself the permission to begin, what I recommend doing is just giving yourself a six month timeframe. Just commit to six months of showing up, building your business or working towards a goal that you're working on and give it your best shot and then if in six months’ time it's not working out or it's not aligned with your lifestyle or it's not feeling like something you want to continue to pursue, you can reevaluate at that point. You can pivot, you can stop, you can do whatever you want basically. But to give yourself a six month time frame to give it a go. And what this does is it actually allows you to release the pressure a bit because it's not like you're needing to do this forever more and then if it doesn't work, your life is over...and getting into that kind of all or nothing mentality. It's giving yourself a six month opportunity to see what happens, to show up in the best way that you can with what you've got and go from there.
I find that really helpful and that's really what I did with Wellbeing Weekly. I said I was going to give it one year and see what happened. I was going to give the podcast a year and then determine if I wanted to move forward with service options and things like that. And when I got to that one year mark, that's exactly what I did. And you know, that got us into what I've been doing over the last 12 months. So you've just gotta take it as it comes. You don't need to have it all figured out years in advance. You just need to get started. Give yourself an opportunity to give it a go and basically evaluate along the way.