Your mid to late twenties – a time of radical growth, change and “adulting”. This is often the period that we finish up with all that damn study, go out into the real world of jobs, houses, long term partners, leaving home and possibly starting a family. There’s a lot of pressure to have all of your ducks in a row and be living the ideal life of buying a home, getting married, having babies and being blissfully happy. But what if that’s not the case? What if you’re heading towards your 30th birthday and you haven’t got all of the things that you’re “supposed” to have? What if you’re really struggling? Enter…Quarter Life Crisis, or QLC.
I’m turning 29 in a couple of weeks and around six months ago I felt like I was heading to QLC territory. Despite being newly engaged and working from home on my business, I had a sense of something missing. I had this nagging feeling that there was more that I could achieve and that I needed to get my life sorted out into this neat little box with a bow so that I was really ready to take on the third decade of my life. Obviously, not practical. However, it did lead me to some deep soul searching and a sense of awakening…aka hope. I started to integrate things into my life that were supportive for my wellbeing, self care and health and slowly started to feel more like myself and as though I was moving in the right direction. Then, I learnt about Saturn Return and it pretty much summed up the past six months for me.
So what is your Saturn Return? Your Saturn Return occurs approximately 29 years after your birth and is when Saturn returns to the same position in space that it was when you were born, and essentially signifies your cosmic rite of passage. It’s the time for moving into a more mature role in this life, shedding the pain of the past and beginning to crystallise the lessons of your life thus far as you enter into your 30’s. During this time, you can expect to be hit with all sorts of blocks, challenges and mistakes and need to gather the strength to push through them. There’s no escaping these issues and distracting yourself like you may have up until now – it’s time to worth through the shit and start to heed the lessons and become a better version of yourself. If you continue to ignore the signals coming your way, then you can prepare for Saturn to keep throwing them at you until you get the wake up call. While it may be one of your most challenging and emotional years to date, it will also be one of your most transformative and you’ll be thanking yourself in a few years time for having pushed through.
For me, Saturn entered into the sign of Capricorn around November 12th, 1988 which was around six months before I was born. This was also around the time for me last year that life started shaking and waking me. If you’re like me and you’re possibly in your Saturn Return, Astrostyle say here’s what you can expect when Saturn is in Capricorn (Saturn in the 10th house):
You’re all about goals and can be obsessed with being successful, possibly to your detriment. In your Saturn Return, you may be getting some blocks or stalling in your career and find that a new or different career is now calling. Capricorn and the 10th house is associated with men and the father so you may find that daddy issues are arising either currently or from your past, or that your relationship with your father or father figure is distant or strained. Alternatively, you may have felt suppressed or unable to express yourself while in your fathers company, due to his stern or authoritative attitude. These are issues that will need to be addressed during your Saturn Return, and coincidentally you will also find that powerful men in your life will be there as a support to manifesting your dreams. This is a time for business focus and you may find yourself returning to study, receiving a huge promotion or beginning your own business venture.
Sound familiar? This is certainly hitting some notes with me. It was around six months ago that I began working on personal development more seriously and also developed the motivation to begin a wellbeing blog and podcast. I was, and still am, full of ideas and ambitions around this and know that supporting and connecting with others is what I’m called to do. I also got engaged in mid September last year, which bought up some concerns around my relationship with my father and how that would play out as I planned a wedding. Needless to say, I have been propelled into facing these concerns head on and resolving them.
Whether you believe that your quarter life crisis is a result of your Saturn Return or not, it is a great time to start going deeper and starting to clear out the last three decades of mistakes, experiences and/or traumas, and re-framing them into lessons, sources of strength and breakthroughs.
If you want to learn more about your own Saturn Return, you can see the list of dates and associated signs for your birthdate at Astrostyle.
Let me know about your experiences with entering your Saturn Return, or just your Quarter Life Crisis and what supported you to get through.